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Dealing with boy kids
Posted : 29 Jan, 2023 12:05 PM

I have 2 adorable boys aged 12 and 3yrs.the older is very calm and respectful. The younger is very stuborn,And even talks back.how do I handle that?

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Jully230381

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Posted : 29 May, 2023 06:07 AM

My nephew is also turning ten and he is turning to be a spoiled brat.. he is spoiled by grandparents and aunts...



what is the healthy way to deal with him and address this aside from prayers?

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Posted : 28 Oct, 2023 02:23 PM

I would first have to ask if are you disciplining him for his actions? If you're just giving him talks then he's just mimicking what you're saying to him. More than likely what he needs is age appropriate discipline rather than just meaningless (to him) words. Words only have meaning when they are backed up with some kind of action.

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Posted : 28 Oct, 2023 02:52 PM

Jully you need to put a stop to the spoiling by letting the grandparents & aunts know that it they don't stop what they are doing or you will restrict their access to your children.



But I believe there's more to the problems with your children the your relatives spoiling them. I suspect you're trying to find someone or something to blame for your own short comings in controlling your children.



It could be you're a single parent which is never good for raising children. And with most women being absolutely terrible at disciplining their children problems with them in that situation are inevitable.



Or maybe they're in a two parent home but your husband doesn't want to do the disciplining or maybe you won't let him or when he does you control exactly how he does it. none of those examples would be a good situation for the children.



In the old days the phrase wait until your father gets home carried a lot of weight and for good reason. Nowadays proper discipline take a back seat in child rearing.

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Posted : 12 May, 2024 09:30 AM

Give them options.

1 Corinthians 4:21 CJB

Which do you prefer — should I come to you with a stick? or with love in a spirit of gentleness?

I never had any problems raising my daughters.

But if I had to do it again, I would not buy worthless things or things that they grow quickly out of other than clothes and shoes.

Better to save money and teach kids to save money.

Probably good to teach them to seek first the kingdom of God and to give God offerings in appreciation for what God does for you.

Good to begin whole life policies on children while they are young and teach them to save and watch their savings grow.

How many toys does one need?

How many books does one need when there are libraries for books?

How many movies does one need to buy when one has the internet?

Better not to teach materialism.

Good to give to Thrift Stores.

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Posted : 12 May, 2024 04:57 PM

Proverbs 13:24

Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.

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Posted : 12 May, 2024 06:18 PM

My daughters knew that when I swore to God and promised to God that I would punish my daughter if they did not behave, they took me seriously, and improved their behaviors, so that I did not need to spank them.

Sometimes, I did not know who was at fault so said, "I will spank you both."

Not many times did I need to spank anyone. Usually, when given the option, they will improve their behavior to avoid punishment. Also, I gave options. Small rewards. Choice of punishment for continuing a bad path and continuing disobedience or small rewards for ending conflict and obeying. It is good to warn. It is also alright from time to time to reward good behavior and offer small rewards for good behavior. I didn't have much problem with my daughters, and they did well in school also. They listened to me.

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